Originality is a desired feature of any composition. This statement is valid for any oration, including the father of the bride speeches. However, being original doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t follow some time-tested rules regarding the topics that you ought to cover in your toast. An example of such a rule refers to the recommended structure of any successful wedding toast, which is the ordinary, simple, traditional and typical structure of the compositions written in school: brief intro, generous body, small ending.
Other rules refer to the ideas that should be covered in each of these main sections of such an oration. This article deals with the second part, which is also the biggest of the three and is also known as the body of the father of bride speech. Prior to going into much detail about this middle portion of this type of oration, there are a couple of points I want to make. First of all, an essential attribute of the wedding toasts refers to their length, more precisely, their duration, which shouldn’t exceed (by much) the acceptable limit of five minutes.
This maximum limit means that you shouldn’t cover too many ideas in your oration; from the topics suggested in this article, you must choose the ones you prefer and also the ones that you feel that shouldn’t be left out of the father of the bride wedding speech that you will offer at your daughter’s bridal reception. Another important feature of all the successful toasts (of this kind) is that each has a main subject; this means that, if you want to give a great oration, you should choose a main topic for your toast and then make sure that the ideas included in the body of your speech are all related to the chosen main topic.
Let’s see now what you ought to speak about during the main part (the body) of your wedding toast. I will tell you first the “mandatory” topics; these topics are highly recommended to be included in all the father of the bride speeches and toasts – I mean in their texts as a whole, not necessarily in their body. After enumerating the “must-include” ideas, I will get to the “optional” topics – the things that you may leave out of your toast. I must tell you that the order of these topics is not compulsory at all. Nor is their inclusion in a certain essential section of the oration, because you can very well insert the following topics in any part of the speech, other than the body, i.e. in the intro or in the ending.
One of the so-called “mandatory” topics is to compliment the bridegroom, who will be an important member of your family, i.e. your new son-in-law. This means that, in your father of the bride speech (either in its intro, body or conclusion), you should express your admiration for the best attributes of the groom. However, you must not overstate his virtues, because sincerity is one of the most important requirements of a successful wedding toast.
Another highly recommended topic is to welcome the groom in your family. This can be done in any section you like. Felicitating your daughter, i.e. the bride, for her spouse, is another “mandatory” idea for the toast’s text as a whole; in other words, you can congratulate her either in the opening, the main part or the ending of your father of the bride wedding speech. Describing the bride (being your daughter, you know her very well, don’t you?) is the most important and required topic of the body of any toast delivered by one of the bride’s parents. You can depict some comic scenes from her childhood and even from the groom’s courtship of her.
If you decide to insert some details about the newlyweds’ relationship, you should ask their consent first (you don’t want to embarrass them in one of the most beautiful days of their life, do you?). Some advice for a successful marriage should be given, according to the father of the bride speeches etiquette. You can offer advice not only to your daughter (I refer to the bride), but also to your new son-in-law. If you don’t know what kind of counsel you should offer, it’s recommended to read the interesting examples and templates that you will find in the resource that you can see on this webpage.